Comments on: Truth, Action, Peace

By: Corrina

Corrina — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 08:32:15 +0000

Denise – Thank you. Honesty feels like a gift to others AND it helps me – to feel cleaner, more aligned and (surprisingly?) safer.

How interesting that you developed a mantra in high school that has stayed with you all this time. Sometimes at this point of life we can develop patterns and strategies which erode our self-confidence and restrict our world – it’s refreshing to hear about the opposite being true for you. And I like how ‘Fear’ is reframed as a helpful friend
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By: Denise @ Raw Brides

Denise @ Raw Brides — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 23:15:13 +0000

I LOVE this article – and it’s so refreshing to see someone be so honest, especially in the blogosphere!

Fear played a huge part in my life growing up, and I started this mantra in high school to help me reframe the feeling.

“Fear gives me the energy to do my best in a new situation”.

I sometimes bring it back, so I can go – Oh fear, here you are – thanks for helping me out here”

Can’t remember source – I’m pretty sure I read it in a book somewhere!

By: Corrina

Corrina — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:27:23 +0000

Annie – I liked the winking face, please don’t take it back I’m so glad I went ahead too and thank you for being there and bringing your sparkling energy, your ideas and your support for others. Cambridge got lucky.

Bahieh – Superwoman is what I was thinking! So… what is the fear around NOT being a superwoman? We’re a failure, weak, not up to scratch, unworthy….? Others will think worse of us, we’ll fall from some pedestal? What’s the worse case scenario of us NOT looking good – what’s the worst fear?
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By: Bahieh

Bahieh — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:14:01 +0000

Great post Corinna.

I guess the female equivalent to being “Macho” is “Superwoman”!!

We try so hard to pretend we can do everything that is asked from us… and still look good in the process!
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By: Annie Wigman

Annie Wigman — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 10:17:51 +0000

ignore the winking in my smile in my earlier comment! I clearly can’t type properly. no ambiguity was intended

By: Annie Wigman

Annie Wigman — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 15:49:53 +0000

I’m very glad you did go ahead, Corrina and I’m glad I was there! ;-D xx

By: Corrina

Corrina — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 11:13:28 +0000

Nick – What an insightful comment, thank you so much. And also thanks for sharing this very practical strategy with readers here. I will experiment with that fear journalling myself.

The ‘macho’ slant is interesting… I wonder what the equivalent is for us women, do we do ‘macho’?! Is it maybe ‘sorted’ or ‘got it all together’? Anyone…?
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By: Nick Robinson

Nick Robinson — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 09:20:12 +0000

Another excellent post Corrina,

As someone who is VERY good at macho-ing my way to ignore fear I know that for me, simply being with and examining my fear was the single biggest shift I’ve ever experienced.

I spent a little over six months keeping a daily fear journal. First thing in the day I would just write about what I was worried or nervous or anxious about at that moment.

Gradually I learnt that my fears and I could actually co-exist and that I didn’t need to spend quite so much energy denying them or putting myself down for having them or for not living up to my macho image of someone too succesful to have fears!